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Are children damaged by working mothers?
THE DEBATE has raged long and hard.
On one side; softly smiling earth mothers wearing cosy knitted jumpers. On the other; hard-nosed, materialistic career women flashing filofaxes and painted talons.
But which type of woman will win the battle over their child’s development?
The answer, unsurprisingly, is neither.
Why? Because neither actually exist. And while most of us realise that each person is a complex individual and that relationships between complex individuals are, well, complex… it’s taken a little bit more time for some of those studying childhood development to catch up.
Enter the new ‘groundbreaking’ study into maternal employment. Why is it groundbreaking? Because it looks at the full picture (again, this may seem obvious – sadly, it hasn’t been.)
Over the past two decades countless studies on maternal employment have been produced, with widely varying results. Some blast mothers for going back to work within a year of giving birth, others say it’s a no-no to go back to the office until your child is three or four – and yet others seem to endorse parting ways with your newborn as soon as you leave the hospital.
But the latest study, by New York’s Columbia University School of Social Work, was published last week, and paints a very different picture.
The Observer quotes Jane Waldfogel, visiting professor at the London School of Economics, talking about the study:
In contrast to more limited studies conducted in recent years – which didn’t take trivial matters such as the mental health of a mother into account – this study has found that a mother returning to work does not automatically have a negative on a child.
The study outlines that there are disadvantages, of course, but says there are also advantages. So, weighing up the whole picture, the overall effect of a mother returning to work on her child is… neutral.
Waldfogel says that the parenting style itself is most important factor in a child’s development, not whether a mother is employed or not. “It is hugely important how sensitive you are to your child’s needs,” she explains.
The results will no doubt be welcomed by fretting mothers everywhere who guiltily leave the house in the morning, either through desire or necessity, wondering just how badly they are messing up their kids.
Sam Willoughby, founder of website Mum and Working, told The Observer:
And a recent revelation by actor Emma Thompson further explodes preconceptions about motherhood; Thompson’s declaration that she doesn’t – and doesn’t want to - “have it all” has led some to despair. (After all, if Emma Thompson thinks of having it all as “a revolting concept“, what hope is there for us mere mortals?)
But perhaps the sensible findings of the Society for Research in Child Development could be applied here too: figure out what’s best for you, concentrate on listening to your child’s needs, and stop worrying about perfection.
What a refreshing concept.
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