FROM TOUCHING THE bump without permission to passing comment on various aspects of the mother’s appearance, approach or attitude, there’s little doubt that pregnancy often results in the eschewing of standard social etiquette.
While we know that invading personal space or offering unsolicited advice is considered taboo in polite company, the same rules don’t seem to apply when a woman is carrying a child.
Pregnancy isn’t synonymous with public property, and yet women have, for years, lamented the nine months they spent under scrutiny from wider society.
This week, Meghan Markle, who announced her pregnancy earlier this month, was unable to attend some scheduled events on her 16-day tour of Australia, New Zealand, Fiji and Tonga.
The Duchess of Sussex’s decision to curtail her schedule was met with instant backlash from members of the public, who made reference to Meghan’s privilege as a royal when deriding her decision to take a step back from duties during the tour.
Some of the criticism has been rooted firmly in the disparity between Meghan and the countless women who aren’t in a position to eschew work commitments while pregnant, while others are implying that coverage of her cancellation creates a narrative that pregnancy and illness are synonymous.
She is pregnant ffs! She’s not even that far gone! Just just on with it x
— katie mogg (@katieb1982) October 21, 2018
Ofcourse it was just a holiday for her..what is she tired of?wearing expensive clothes on tax money?posing?holding hands?tubbing harrys back?
— rabz k (@rabzk2) October 21, 2018
Rest? She's 12 weeks pregnant you clown.
— Ben Nicklin (@Benmnicklin) October 21, 2018
I doubt shaking a few hands and lording around Oz is gonna have a detrimental on the pregnancy. Try working in a real public sector business 6 weeks before you give birth. Give us a break from this shit please.
— Gary Jacko (@thegaryjacko) October 21, 2018
I seem to remember getting up at 6 and getting 2 buses to work as most women do when pregnant.
— jeansgirl (@henrysboss) October 21, 2018
As a member of the British Royal Family, Meghan will never be fortunate enough to avoid criticism, and to think otherwise would be naive.
Derision comes with the territory – as a celebrity and a royal – both of which are positions Meghan has held.
But perhaps it’s worth remembering that Meghan is a pregnant woman first and foremost, and there will be occasion when her status as the Duchess of Sussex will have to take second place.
Meghan is in the relatively early stages of her pregnancy when nausea and exhaustion are commonplace, and yet she is expected to meet with foreign dignitaries, engage with audiences, and navigate public opinion, all under the glare of international flashbulbs.
Throughout the course of her pregnancy, details of her progress will make news headlines and global bulletins, and in the days leading up to her labour, she will have her every move tracked by a clamouring media.
Mere hours after giving birth next year, she will be required to stand on the steps of a hospital ward, looking impossibly groomed in order to fulfill royal tradition and royalist expectation.
It might be worth considering this before denying her a brief break on an international press tour.
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